Not Happiness. No to Pain: How Decision Making Led me to a Better Life

The issue with depending on things happening is shit may never happen. My hair may never grow. I may never get a man. I may never like my big toe. I may never get over how my father/mother/aunt/colonel Sanders was never there. Despite the hold for these happenstances, life still goes on, and so we must choose to have inner peace, joy, and security within ourselves.

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Say it with me: Yes, I can Love with an Open Heart

Love is great in the commercial sense–especially around February. In reality love can be difficult–this we don’t talk about. We post all the #MCM and #WCW and #BAE pictures, right. Yet, we don’t  talk about the push, pull, the communication, the growth, the selflessness, the intimacy, the messy, down right dirty components of growing in love. We don’t talk about the arduous task of breaking down walls when you are a woman who has lock her heart in a stainless steal safe, next to a glock nine (just in case) , underneath a grenade, surrounded by an alligator inhabited moat, within the  land mines hidden around the circumference.

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